Passive


I don’t like the word “passive.” Does anyone like this word? Its worse than introvert, a word that once brought fear to my soul. Another word, boring. At one time, I could trash all of them.

I have made my peace with introvert. I am often one, and proud of it. Same with boring, I often prefer me as such. All of these words have one thing in common. You might have guessed it already; I take each one personally.

What if people laugh when you had no intention of them doing so? What do you do? Owning it is the only way I found to take away the hurt, the shame or whatever other negatives I experienced.

Passive stands alone. My word sheriff hasn’t rounded it up. It is a fugitive from justice, most often appearing in writing or a relationship. In writing, we want the active verb, but our minds beg for the passive. In a relationship, we want people who are direct. We want to be direct, but sometimes courage fails us.

I looked back over my posts for 2013 to see if I had addressed my concern with passive. I had not. I decided to end the year like a lion and not a lamb. At least part of me is now the aggressor. Passivity is becoming my history.

7 thoughts on “Passive

  1. Irene Waters 19 Writer Memoirist December 15, 2013 / 1:12 pm

    It’s interesting how all these words sound like their meaning. Instead you could change the words and use reflective (introvert), prosaic (boring) and quiescent (passive). When you roar these words out one could not help but believe that you are the interesting thought provoking person that you are. And if that doesn’t work remember “the meek shall inherit the earth.”

    • fictionfitz December 15, 2013 / 5:18 pm

      Well done Irene, I like it.

  2. Carole Webber December 15, 2013 / 4:51 pm

    I would prefer to be more of an introvert than I am, being passive has its merits, keeping me from saying the wrong thing, when I am being an extrovert.
    I do not have any angst about being any of the above, should I ?

    • fictionfitz December 15, 2013 / 5:33 pm

      Not at all, he said quickly. Really he said seriously, not quotation marks on any.

    • fictionfitz December 16, 2013 / 5:27 am

      Thanks again for reblog Stuart

      • stuartcrossley December 23, 2013 / 7:42 am

        Don’t mention it, my friend :)!

Comments are closed.